Showing posts with label self image. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self image. Show all posts

Friday, November 15, 2013

How Belly Dancers are Made

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An illustration by Misty Dawn Waggoner on how Bellydancers are made. I like that at the "Dance Enthusiast" stage the belly button comes out. Too true. You can look through my dance pictures from my newb days to now. The waist band just gets lower and lower. ;)

Thursday, June 06, 2013

Woman's Body - A Bellydance Perspective



A lovely video featuring a short discourse on Bellydance and body perspective by Ruby Jazayre, Professor of Middle Eastern Dance, Indiana University South Bend.

Friday, May 31, 2013

Friday, March 11, 2011

FULL fast

I saw this at Walgreens. A hot chick wearing a bellydance bra and belt to sell "appetite control spray." That's it, just the bra and belt. I guess that is better than the "Ripped Fuel EXTREME" right next to it. That sounds painful.

*rolls eyes*

~N

Now hunting: for a song for a beginner choreography
mood: Hungry. Ironic with the picture of the appetite control spray.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Women, Wine, and Cheese...and Irons

1960's travel iron vs 2011 iron. 
The old girl looks snazzy and still works but just doesn't get the job done.

I recently looked in the mirror and noticed a few tiny wrinkles here and there. My skin was chapped and blotchy. My eyes looked a little tired. It is winter after all. And then, suddenly, I realized I am getting older. Just like that, I found myself to be in the target market of commercials for beauty and fitness products for women in their 30's. I became conscious of anti-wrinkle creams, cancer screenings I should start looking into, hair color that covers grays, supplements to rebuild the cartilage in my knee.

WRINKLE CREAM FOR CHRIST'S SAKE!

I have never been so conscious of my age before now. I know I am not OLD. Age is just a number, blah, blah. I grew up being one of the youngest people in my class, always being teased for being the baby in the group, or always being reminded, “When you get to be my age...” And now, well, I am that age, whatever that means.

Which brings me to Bellydance. There is no age limit in BD. There is no predefined age which you can start or should stop dancing. I have heard many times the older the woman the better the dancer because she has the life experience and emotional maturity to perform at a higher level than an younger woman. The only rule of thumb I can think of with BD is just age gracefully. I mean, there may be some costume limitations, even though I hate to use that word. Limitations. I do not like the idea that at certain ages we should not wear certain clothes even though I agree that I should not be wearing mini skirts when I am in my 60's. At least outside my own home.

Right, so back to me "getting older." Will there be a day I look in the mirror and tell myself I am getting to old for this? At what point will I decide I will no longer perform unless I wear a tummy cover and long sleeves? Will I even realize I am “too old” for certain choices and make a fool out of my old crazy self? Will I be in my 60's wearing mini skirts with lipstick on my teeth and toilet paper stuck to my dance sandals? Will anyone tell me?

I am not really worried about these things. Just thinking out loud. I am actually looking forward to getting the senior discount on coffee and pie. I bought myself some snazzy Oil of Olay moisturizer, by the way. It is the most expensive beauty product I think I have ever bought. It is actually pretty AWESOME. It's all velvety soft when I put it on. And, as far as the irons in the picture go, I used the new iron to iron my silk veil for the first time in ...ever. Women, wine, and cheese get better with age. Irons do not.

~N

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Why do you Bellydance?...Really?


Naima - pic by Treszka

As part of my stage presence class on Aug 15th, I had 30 plus dancers answer 3 questions anonymously on a notecard and we discussed the answers as a group and how they apply to a bellydancer's creativity and attitude on stage. I only used half a dozen or so of the cards for class but I kept them all so I could type them up for discussion.

The 3 questions were:
  1. Why do you Bellydance?
  2. What is your Bellydance goal(s)?
  3. What is your biggest stage fear?
I typed up the answers as they were written (spelling mistakes are probably mine though). They were asked to be as honest as possible with their answers.

Keep in mind the 3 questions as you read along

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  • I bellydance because it gives me joy, connects me spiritually, and makes my body feel GREAT. It also helps me feel better about my body.
  • To create additional choreographies for teaching and performing
  • My biggest fear is to be judged negatively by my fellow dancers.
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  • I bellydance to feel free and beautiful and to be creative and have fun.
  • My goal is to master all styles of bellydance, which I realize will probably not be attainable, so my realistic goal is to practice more.
  • My biggest stage fear is forgetting my choreography and just standing there like a dork.
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  • I bellydance because it feels so good.
  • My bellydance goal is to spread the joy and benefits of this art form to every woman I can.
  • My greatest fear is that I will mess up horribly on stage – as in fall on my ass or off the stage!
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  • Fun and socializing.
  • A solo I'm confident in.
  • Putting a lot of effort into a solo and it being really lame.
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  • I bellydance because it makes me feel good about myself.
  • My goals are to sharpen my technique...and to learn to be myself on stage!
  • My fears are everything you said...pretty much the audience's perception...
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  • I bellydance because it makes me feel great about myself.
  • I want to work harder on drills and isolations.
  • On stage I am afraid of missing a step and having trouble getting back into the choreo.
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  • I bellydance because it's a way to express myself that I've been needing since birth.
  • My b.d. Goal is to be proficient at as many types and styles as I can.
  • My biggest stage fear is that I'll never be prepared enough.
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  • I bellydance because I think it is a graceful form of dance.
  • To do the zills and to shimmy better.
  • Not to fall and freeze.
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  • I bellydance because it brings me joy and brings life and color into my world.
  • My b.d. Goal is to a) develop a full Egyptian (20min) routine and b) dance w/ a shamadan.
  • My biggest fear on stage is blanking on what to do next and just standing there like a dumb ass.
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  • I bellydance because...I enjoy the dance and social interaction it brings.
  • My goal for my bellydancing is to be able to perform a solo in front of an audience.
  • My fear is getting up on stage and freezing (forgetting what I am doing).
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  • I bellydance because it makes me feel beautiful.
  • My goal is to one day choreograph a piece.
  • My biggest fear. I'll do a solo and totally forget parts.
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  • I bellydance because I have always danced and the came into my life at the right time. Dance keeps me sane and gets me through the work week.
  • My goal bellydance wise is to get more comfortable doing solos and not getting so nervous leading a group.
  • My biggest fear is messing up/forgetting choreo, but making it obvious instead of just continuing to dance.
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  • I bellydance because that's where me girlz are and they take me fun places.
  • Goals – Working on being a better costumer, personal confidence in front of strangers, muscle control.
  • Fears – forgetting choreo and embarrassing us by looking out of step.
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  • I bellydance because it is a great opportunity and I love dancing.
  • My goal is to get better at bellydancing.
  • I'm afraid that I will mess up or forget the dance.
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  • I bellydance for fun, exercise, and the feeling of feminine grace and power.
  • To choreograph my own solo, to dance solo, and to develop a prenatal bellydance class.
  • I am afraid of looking stiff and mechanical instead of fluid, graceful, and in the music.
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  • I bellydance because of the exercise feature and to gain poise.
  • My goal is to learn to do snake arms beautifully.
  • Mt stage fear is going the wrong way or wrong arm.
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  • Why? I like to bellydance because it is the one thing that I do only for myself.
  • Goals? I would like to get in better shape, develop more flexibility and grace.
  • Fear? I'm afraid my physical injuries will hinder my development as a dancer.
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  • Because I love everything about it and I feel hot when I do it.
  • My goal is to dance with swords and snakes and perform.
  • Costume malfunction and freeze.
  • What's the best way to start handling a sword?
-We didn't go over each notecard in the workshop so I didn't discover the last question until a few days later. Apparently someone needed some feedback/direction for sword dancing. Check out shira.net 's sword page for info on choosing a sword, balancing, costuming, etc. Pretty much everything you need to get started.

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  • I bellydance because it is freedom.
  • My bellydance goal is to get better at performance and sharpen my skills.
  • My biggest bellydance fear is that I'm not good enough.

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  • I bellydance because is is good exercise.
  • My current goal in bellydance is to have a better looking stomach.
  • My biggest fear on stage is to mess up.

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  • I bellydance because it makes me feel good and pretty.
  • To educate women about all kinds of bellydance.
  • To be made fun of because of my weight.

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  • I bellydance because it's great exercise – strengthens the core.
  • Goal – to get better – get over clumsiness.
  • Biggest fear – audience – people watching.

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  • I love how dancing makes me feel.
  • My goal is to perfect my art and strengthen my body.
  • I don't like crowds or people staring – solos scare me.

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  • I bellydance because I want to feel sexier to myself.
  • My goal is to flow when I dance and become more comfortable with myself.
  • Biggest fear is not doing things right in front of others, showing my fear on my face.

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  • I bellydance because it's fun.
  • My goal is to improve my technique and to learn this year.
  • My fear is I suck and no one is telling me.

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  • Because it gives me a venue to express myself and it's great for toning my body.
  • To get back into classes and strengthen my core.
  • Forgetting the choreography and tripping and falling.

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  • Why bellydance? I bellydance because it's fun, a good workout, it's a beautiful tradition.
  • What is bellydance goal? To actually perform one day.
  • What is biggest stage fear? Tripping, not doing well, not pretty enough, too fat, wardrobe malfunction, bad choreography.

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  • I bellydance because it is fabulous fun.
  • Enjoy myself and get past stage fright. More comfortable in my own skin.
  • Looking stupid.

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  • I bellydance because I have fun, feel beautiful, and make friends.
  • My goal is to learn to play zills well.
  • My worst fear is my costume falling off.

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  • I bellydance because I want to loose weight.
  • What is my goal to get the movements right such as belly rolls.
  • Stage fear is I'll mess up my steps as a group.

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  • I bellydance because I LOVE it, the women, the moves, the music.
  • My goal is to become more fluid and flexible.
  • My biggest fear is the I will look like a clumsy fat cow.

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  • It opens my life.
  • To perform in front of an audience without being scared.
  • That my technique isn't good enough to perform yet.

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  • I bellydance because it's fun and makes me feel worthy.
  • My bellydance goal is to have better “presence” and “ attitude”.
  • My biggest stage fear is that I will look foolish.

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  • I bellydance for fun and exercise.
  • To become more graceful and loose weight.
  • Not good enough. Things falling out of costume.
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I found the answers both exactly what I expected and surprising. I expected some answers to be similar but I was surprised that almost all 30 plus answers where almost identical. In short,

Everyone Bellydances because it is fun and makes them happy in some way.
Everyone's goals are to get better at some aspect of the dance.
No one wants to mess up and/or be judged or embarrassed.

I found the following fears the most revealing. Two people are struggling with the fact there is an audience at all.

"I don't like crowds or people staring – solos scare me."
"Biggest fear – audience – people watching."
It isn't perfectly clear if these dancers want to perform on stage or not. They certainly don't have to perform in public. It also isn't clear as to why the audience is so intimidating. But I get the sense more dancers have a general fear of the audience than one would think.

The next fear...

"My fear is I suck and no one is telling me. "
...is one of the most true.

No one wants to walk around with their fly unzipped or toilet paper stuck to their shoe and no one tell them. It is definitely the same with the dance. No one wants to be oblivious to issues they may have performing. It is a hard thing to get someone to tell you that you have food in your teeth much less your technique needs work.

All dancers want constructive critique of their dance but teachers and fellow dancers don't want to discourage or offend their friends. And unfortunately, because of this many dancers don't get any critique at all. They may have great potential but are left in an unpolished state and stagnate there.

So I give this to you to chew on and give your input. Maybe even answer the questions yourself? (all 47 of you subscribers. The whole "Follow this blog" thing isn't accurate because it doesn't show the people who are actually subscribed to the blog feed.)

~N

Now listening to: the menfolk doing character creation
mood: chips and rotel dip

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Artist's Way week one review



Naima standing Here. pic by Jman

Hyper
Starry-eyed
All ideas intensified
All projects moved forward
Discovering new music and old happiness-es
Not noticing I haven't eaten in hours
and DA....MN, I'm fabulous!

I haven't finished reading chapter 2 but I predict over-coming hurdles, fighting monsters, planting flowers on a dead past.

For
the
Win

~N

Now listening:
"Oh, the pheonix says
Burn for me
The Devil says
Lie for me
The serpent says
Beg for me
The siren says
Die for me"
~ IAMX - Song of Imaginary Beings (omg! thx to Jolie. Just what I needed!)
Mood: chicken salad and sweet tea

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Bellydance vs Stripping

I don't remember what I was looking for now but I came across this web site read the first line and started to get mad...
101 Exotic Dancers.com is an Internet directory for exotic dancers, male strippers, female strippers, belly dancers, strip clubs, dance costumes, and other ethnic dancers.

101 Exotic Dancers.com is a valuable resource for anyone who is planning a bachelor party, bachelorette party, fraternity party, sorority party, or any party that caters to an adult crowd.

The popularity of exotic dancers in the U.S. is probably at an all-time high. So many vibrant, multi-ethnic communities across our country encourage the survival of their cultures through language, food, customs, and the arts; music, singing, painting, crafts, and dance. Not only the various ethnic communities encourage their dances at celebrations, but individuals outside those communities hire and invite ethnic dancers to perform at their own functions and parties, too.

At a time where more people are seeking to better understand people of different cultures, exotic dancers of every style can be an important bridge to appreciating another culture. Whether their name is Arabic, Greek, Middle Eastern, Persian, Egyptian, or Turkish; exotic belly dancers are always popular.

Caribbean, Polynesian, and Latin dancers of every country; from Spain to Portugal to Mexico, are also popular as dancing entertainment for all kinds of events. People are drawn to the beat, the music, the rhythm, and the visual treat of dancers performing with professional flair.

From a different school of thought, of course, for novelty, spice, and excitement, many people enjoy the old-fashioned striptease. Exotic male and female strippers or dancers are always in demand when you want to push the boundaries and celebrate birthdays, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and other special occasions.

No matter your style or occasion 101 Exotic Dancers.com will point you to the dancer or dancers that best suit your festivity.
Then as I continued to read it I thought that it makes sense to lump BD in with stripping. You may want any of these different types of dancers for a bday party, wedding, etc. I mean why would I, being educated about the differences between BD and other forms of exotic dance, assume they would treat BD like stripping? There is even a whole paragraph on "seeking to better understand people of different cultures." In one hand BD is G-rated dance where stripping is X-rated dance. Why would they not be listed together on an exotic dancer site? On the other hand, I find this association a huge misnomer. I have yet to find a BDancer who wants to be remotely associated with stripping or X-rated dance of any kind.

So, maybe it is my understanding of the word exotic. How did it get from definition #1 to #4?
Main Entry: 1ex·ot·ic Listen to the pronunciation of 1exotic
Pronunciation: \ig-ˈzä-tik\
Function: adjective
Etymology: Latin exoticus, from Greek exōtikos, from exō
Date:1599
1: introduced from another country : not native to the place where found <exotic plants>
2archaic : foreign, alien
3
: strikingly, excitingly, or mysteriously different or unusual <exotic flavors>
4: of or relating to striptease <exotic dancing>

Ok, that is a rhetorical question. I guess I should instead work on my understanding of the word paradox.
Main Entry: par·a·dox Listen to the pronunciation of paradox
Pronunciation: \ˈper-ə-ˌdäks, ˈpa-rə-\
Function: noun
Etymology: Latin paradoxum, from Greek paradoxon, from neuter of paradoxos contrary to expectation, from para- + dokein to think, seem — more at decent
Date: 1540
1: a tenet contrary to received opinion
2 a
: a statement that is seemingly contradictory or opposed to common sense and yet is perhaps true b: a self-contradictory statement that at first seems true c: an argument that apparently derives self-contradictory conclusions by valid deduction from acceptable premises
3
: one (as a person, situation, or action) having seemingly contradictory qualities or phases

~N

Now playing: Samurai Jack
mood: eggs and bacon

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Mighty Need

Now playing: serial experiments Lain
mood: nuggets

First of all, I made the mistake of finding this Hand of Fatima belly button ring (second pic on page). Then I surfed for more belly button jewelry, OMG! My brain has been stuck back in the days of high school with girls taking earring studs and home piercing their navels. So, within a matter of a day or so had a mighty need to have my belly button pierced. (Ok, so there was more to it than that but this pretty much sums it up).

Aside from my ears being pierced in 2nd grade, I have no other body art/modification. I have always been of the mindset of blood, guts, gore, dead things - no problem; Sharp pointy objects that make blood, guts, gore come out of body - not so much.

On Saturday, I called up Z. so he could put me into contact with his friend Ash (whom he is always singing praises about), who is a body piercer at Hearts of Fire Tattoo here in Springfield. He called her up and found out prices and such but also that she could do the piercing that day or not for a week or so because she was leaving for a piercing convention the next day. I got an appointment right then...mighty need and all.

I got to the studio (by myself) a bit early and the slightly sterile smell started to make me nervous, like going to have blood drawn at the doctors office. Ashley was super nice, super laid back, and super knowledgeable. Once she "looked at my anatomy" she helped me pick out a barbell for the jewelry. I initially wanted a garnet stone but she suggested that with my "anatomy" a 1/2" length would be better and she didn't have any that size. I went with her suggestion of 1/2" and picked the aurora borealis stone in my size instead.

I told her I was a body piercing virgin so she took extra time to explain everything top to bottom. She had me stand while she cleaned my navel and marked the spot she was going to pierce. She also explained that she pierces free-hand without a clamp to lessen the trauma to the area. By the time she had me laying horizontal on the mechanical chair I had almost forgotten about the whole piercing my flesh with sharpened metal.

"Deep breath in," ...poke
"Breath out," ...slide
"Deep breath again," ...poke
"And out," ...

That was it. Didn't hurt. Felt odd, for sure but I've hurt myself worse popping a zit. She fiddled around with it for a few seconds getting the barbell in place. I assume because I didn't watch. Then I was upright and looking at it in the mirror. She gave me a sheet with all the important info on it. Don't touch it, how to clean it, what size barbell, etc. $50 got my piercing, jewelry, and aftercare H2Ocean spray. My bar is internally threaded which means the bar is threaded on the inside and the ball inserts into it, like the pic above. That is so there is a smooth surface going through the piercing and not a threaded one. (Here is also a super un-sexy pic of my pierced belly. Not bad for free hand, huh?)

It was strangely such a pleasant experience I would almost do it again for giggles. But, I am not allowed to have it changed for a month (by her only,) and I can't touch it for 6 months. All I can do is stare at it, no touching, no turning, no breathing on it. I've been flashing it at my friends a lot. "BELLY!" It has only been 3 days and still doesn't hurt. I guess if it hurt I wouldn't want to touch it so bad, but since it doesn't it almost feels like it isn't really even there. A mirage. AHHH! want! to! touch!!! I bumped it once, but that kinda sucked. I get a little joy when it is time to use the cleaning spray but I am way to paranoid to mess with it. I want it to heal well.



When I started bellydancing I found tattoos and navel piercings distracting. The first time I saw Bahia dance I could only look at her tattoo every time she turned it toward me, even though I think she is a most beautiful and talented "classical" Raks Sharqi dancer.

I found the same problem with navel piercings (and too much body glitter for that matter.) I would focus on the body art and not the dancing. Not to say that body art (and glitter) is any different than ear piercings and costuming. And, with the popularity of Rachel Brice and American Tribal Fusion styles, it is hard to find a "tribal" dancer without the Brice inspired tattoo on her torso. It's like seeing the trendy Tramp Stamps all through the 90's. Tattos seem to have become an accepted form of body art for American tribal style dance. And really, with henna and facial piercings being a common part of many near and far East cultures it is perfectly appropriate. So I guess seeing the body art, particularly on tribal style dancers more and more often has helped me become less distracted by it.

Even though I find some tattoo art beautiful, creative, and even funny, I prefer the versatility of a piercing in case I get a wild hair up my ass. (HAHAHAHAHA I know it's just a saying, but I had a visual of a wild hair up ass...giggle...think of it, right now, in your ass, can't help it now can you...HAHAHAHA). And to be honest, once it is healed I will probably take my piercing out or put a clear retainer in it when I dance, classical BD anyway. I still don't feel like it compliments the classical BD style. Maybe I'll change my mind. I may not be able to afford that 18k gold HoF but I can get a barbell that I can add my own charm to. So either way I win.

~N

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Why We Dance

Now Playing: Howie Day - Australia
mood: COFFEE

Here is a great post about what makes bellydance so special on BellyLorna's Blog.

I've been pretty busy this past week. I retaught myself to single stitch crochet (making a scarf), worked on choreography, started sewing my dress for the Voltaire show, rereading Jane Eyre, writing in my diary (like a real paper one), and all the other stuff I do with my two jobs. No video games though and very little TV. I see a few PBS specials while I am crocheting and the weather, but that is it.

Must do more work now...

~N

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

"Big" Bellydance

Marilyn Monroe full figure icon

Now playing: Tori Amos - American Doll Posse
Mood: no more bananas with peanut butter...i think i OD'd

I my quest to put together info and exercises about stage presence I have thought quite intensely about how self image affects stage presence and how important it is to the end result of your dance. And I've concluded that no matter how good of a dancer you are, if you can't get past yourself, you can't reach your BD potential.

Anyway, I was excited to find Big Bellydance, a website that promotes/supports plus size and full figure dancers. It doesn't really have much info at the moment but is supportive nonetheless. There is also some full figure Q&A Here.

Unfortunately, I find that there is very little info available on this subject and next to no info on self image and respect that pertains to BD. Most of what I've found is where to buy bigger sized costumes and how to dress to hide, accentuate, look slimmer, look sexier in your costume than any real discussion on why women (of all figures) are drawn to BD and what they go through mentally. The other stuff I found has a heavy new age overtone or just rolled up with pilates, yoga, and pregnancy.

BD puts, at least American women, in a very vulnerable place. And each of these women are working to feel better about herself in some way, whether body image, performance anxiety, appreciation, self expression, belonging to a group, and so on.

I have said in the past that all Bellydancers are nut cases in some way, and I don't mean that in a derogatory sense. But, we (Bellydancers) all seem to have our hang-ups that we use BD to deal with (me included).

So, hum, where am I going with this?

I guess I'm trying to say BD should be seen as therapeutic and that I wish there was more available out there for the women and men who need its support.

But then that would lead to a who is right and who is not, mess. Dance therapy taught inappropriately by non-therapist. Oh well, the yin yang of the universe and stuff.

~N

More links kinda sorta related to this topic:

Belly Dance Therapy
Beinthenow.org
The Healing Power of Dance